How to Cope When You Are Alone on Thanksgiving

How to Cope When You Are Alone on Thanksgiving Social Anxiety Disorder Coping Print How to Cope When You Are Alone on Thanksgiving By Arlin Cuncic Arlin Cuncic, MA, is the author of Therapy in Focus: What to Expect from CBT for Social Anxiety Disorder and 7 Weeks to Reduce Anxiety. Learn about our editorial policy Arlin Cuncic Updated on August 17, 2019 Social Anxiety Disorder Overview Symptoms & Diagnosis Causes Treatment Living With In Children Jose Luis Pelaez Inc/Getty Images Being alone on Thanksgiving can feel challenging. This holiday is a time of year that many people spend in the company of family and friends. If you live with social anxiety disorder (SAD), you might find yourself alone this time of year. Perhaps you turned down invitations to gatherings because of your anxiety, or maybe your relatives live out of town. Whatever the reason for being alone, there are ways that you can feel less lonely. In general, there are three ways to cope. Accept that you are alone and make the most of your time.Find people to spend time with so that you dont feel so lonely.Spend the holiday making plans so that you will not be alone this time next year. Accept Being Alone Accepting being alone doesnt necessarily mean staying home and feeling lonely. There are many things that you can do on Thanksgiving that put you in the company of people, or connect you with people, while you are still alone. Travel Traveling can take your mind off being alone on Thanksgiving. Try visiting one of the cities hosting a Thanksgiving Day parade; for example, the Macys Day parade is held every Thanksgiving in New York City. If you want to escape being alone on Thanksgiving altogether, choose a country that doesnt celebrate Thanksgiving or where it takes place on a different date, such as Canada. Tip: If you dont want to travel alone, join a tour for single travelers. Write Letters Take the day to write letters or emails to family and friends. Connect with people whom you might not normally contact, and plan for possibly reconnecting and not being alone on Thanksgiving next year. You could even try writing a letter to yourself. Plan on opening it next year to see what you were thinking and feeling, and observe what changes you have made and how things have improved.   How to Journal Write Effectively to Ease Anxiety Become a Sports Fan Thanksgiving is a perfect  day to become a sports fan. Spend the day watching football games, learning the rules of the sport, and choosing a favorite team. Having a little knowledge of sports can also be helpful when making small talk. Next year you might find yourself hosting a Thanksgiving football gathering instead of being alone on Thanksgiving. Be Productive Make it a productive day and get your house organized.  Clean out closets, get the paperwork in order, make to-do lists,  and generally get control of the little details in your life. You will end the day with a feeling of accomplishment, and the ability to focus on your relationships with others because your life is manageable. Get Outdoors Depending on your climate, Thanksgiving day can be a marvelous time to head outdoors for a nature walk or hike. A 2017 study published in PLoS ONE showed that an outdoor activity such as hiking results in a more positive and less negative emotional state compared to just sitting or even compared to walking on a treadmill indoors.   You might even cross paths with other nature lovers who are alone on Thanksgiving. If you dont like the idea of walking alone and are an animal lover, plan to adopt a dog to accompany you next year. People Watch If you cant be in the company of others, you can at least get out and be among people. Although most businesses will be closed on Thanksgiving Day, you are likely to find restaurants and coffee shops that are open. Choose a spot where you can sit and watch people come and go. If you feel self-conscious sitting alone, bring along a newspaper to read or a laptop to check emails or surf the Internet. Find Companions Even if you are alone on Thanksgiving, that doesnt mean you cant reach out to others. The best way to do this is often to put others needs ahead of your own. Who else might be lonely this time of year? Who else is wishing that they had a companion? When you can answer those questions, you will have found a way to ease your own loneliness. Volunteer Volunteering to help those less fortunate during the holidays will make you feel good and also help minimize feelings of being alone on Thanksgiving. If you dont want to go the traditional route of helping out in a soup kitchen or with a food drive, there are still lots of opportunities to donate your time. Perhaps your local animal shelter needs help taking dogs out for walks or a seniors residence would like visitors for their guests who are also alone on Thanksgiving. Volunteering is an excellent  way to be thankful for what you have and to realize that your situation could be worse.   Why Being Good to Others Is Also Benefits You Get in Touch With Others Who Are Alone Thanksgiving does not have to be spent with family. If you know of coworkers or acquaintances who are going to be alone on Thanksgiving, ask if they would like to spend the holiday together. Start your own holiday tradition and plan a Thanksgiving gathering to create new friendships. Play card games to stimulate conversation and get to know each other better Plan for the Future Perhaps you turned down invitations to dinner this year because of your anxiety. Make a promise to yourself that next year will be different. A year is plenty of time to get control of your anxiety and reconnect with people in your life. If all else fails and you still find yourself lonely on  Thanksgiving, simply try to make it through the day. Remember that it is only one day out of the year and that it will be over before you know it. Make a vow to yourself to get help for your anxiety so that it doesnt interfere with making plans for next Thanksgiving. 8 Ways to Stay in Control of Your Social Anxiety A Word From Verywell If severe social anxiety is preventing you from connecting with others at Thanksgiving or other times of the year, it is best to make an appointment with your doctor. SAD is a highly treatable disorder with good success rates for both therapy and medication.